Romance with Astarion in Baldur's Gate 3: all the approvals of Astarion [guide]

Astarion in romantic line, consisting of several unique cutscenes and many additional dialogues.

We have prepared a detailed guide to the romance with Astarion in BG3: we will walk through each act of the game and tell you what actions will contribute to the development of relations with companion and obtaining approval, and what, on the contrary, should be avoided.

Race	high elf
Gender	Male
Class	Dodger
Role in the squad	DPS character
Satellite mission	"Blonde Elf"
Force	8
Agility	17
Endurance	14
Intelligence	13
Wisdom	13
Charisma	10
How to recruit into a squad	The opportunity opens after the first conversation at the crash site
Voice Actor	Neil Newbon

Where to find Astarion

You can meet Astarion on the territory of the starting location - to northeast of the "Crash Site", not far from the dark crypt (optional mission "Explore the Ruins").

It doesn’t matter how exactly the protagonist reacts to an attempt to harm on the part of the elf, a benevolent outcome during the dialogue will lead to an offer to the squad or visit a personal camp.

How to romance Astarion in Baldur's Gate 3

Romantic relationships with Astarion, as in the case of other main companions, develop gradually. In order to see unique cut scenes or take part in additional conversations regarding the elf’s past life, you must:

1. To main story missions, revealing the protagonist's story throughout all three acts. If you are faced with the fact that the elf stops showing signs of attention to the main character during the “Long Rest”, then it is necessary to complete several goals that are a branch of the main mission in order to unlock access to new types of interaction with the companion.
2. Respond to other characters and act in certain situations in such a way as to increase the “Approval” scale with a chosen companion in the person of a vampire. Relationships with Astarion can be affected by any with living beings and even inanimate objects (for example, with Necromancy of Thay).

It is worth noting that Astarion does not care which path the main character takes in resolving the conflict between tieflings, druids and goblins. The vampire will remain on the protagonist's side regardless of whether he destroys Drora Razglina closer to him than the “game” of being a noble savior.

How to get Astarion's approval

Astarion is an ambiguous character who can be off-putting with his behavior in the initial stages of dating. The vampire is cruel, unapproachable, mannered and selfish, and can also be called “frivolous.” In any case, this is how he demonstrates himself at the start of developing a friendly or romantic relationship with the protagonist. Subsequently, if you make an effort, a man, like other companions, can open up in a completely unexpected way.

However, the “basic” will remain unchanged: he places personal goals and desires above all else, and concepts such as “comion” and “forgiveness” are alien to him. Any manifestation of sympathy (with a subsequent desire to help) towards the problems of others will be met with the indignation of the elf. Some cruelty and indifference, on the contrary, will lead to an increase in the “Approval” scale with the companion.

What Astarion approves of

In order to build a strong relationship with Astarion in BG3, you must:

1. Put personal goals, problems and needs above all else. An indicative scene is the first dialogue with Zevlor, during which the man asks refugees for help in resolving their personal conflict with the Druids. If you agree to provide , you will arouse the indignation of Astarion, who will not hesitate to express his dissatisfaction: the heroes have enough problems, there is no need for them to waste time on errands for strangers.
2. Take the side of Astarion, him and accept him as he is. A significant moment is to allow the vampire to bite you when he reveals his true “dark” nature, and the next morning to come to his defense when other of the camp show obvious displeasure at the unexpected “cohabitation” with the vampire. Another revealing scene could be a meeting with monster hunter, Gandrel, where again it is important to protect the companion.
3. Help Astarion in his plan to take revenge on Kazador. The elf's story is revealed as part of the quest Zarra and, either allow the companion to complete the Unholy Ascension ritual, or dissuade him from performing the ritual. The choice will affect the further development of the romance with the vampire, as well as his attitude towards the main character.

What Astarion doesn't approve of

The following actions, on the contrary, will push the vampire elf away from the protagonist:

1. Constantly those who ask for help. For Astarion, his personal problems and plans are the highest priority, therefore, any attempts to deviate from the main goal will be met with indignation. Such solutions include helping tieflings, free the artist Oscar from Zhentarim captivity and more.
2. Refuse the deal with Rafail. One of the tasks that the vampire will face during the main story campaign is to find out the true meaning of the scars on his back. Only the half-devil Raphael can help with this, and from him, in turn, a response request will come - "Challenge Ball", you may encounter disapproval from your companion.
3. Show hostility towards your companion, ignore his problems and often take the side of others, by any means “giving up” Astarion or portraying him in a negative way. Such actions will quickly “discourage” the vampire-lover from the protagonist.

If you follow the above recommendations, that is, stand on the side of Astarion, him in the execution of his plan for revenge Cazador, as well as gradually building trusting relationships, the vampire will demonstrate “unusual” character traits - gentleness and openness. Among other things, he will become an indispensable ally who will provide adequate in some important plot twists. Below we will take a closer look at the main scenes that influence the romantic relationship with the elf.

Relationship with Astarion in the first act

The first significant t scene with Astarion, which can mark the “beginning” of the development of relations with the character, takes place a few days after the start of the main plot. During the Long Rest, the elf will appear to the protagonist with with the intention of drinking his blood.

An attempt to remain unnoticed will fail - the light sleep of the main character will not allow the companion to escape unpunished, and the man will have to it that he is a vampire. This companion feature must be accepted, a positive action would be the decision to allow Astarion to finish his plan. To do this, during the dialogue, select the following remarks:

• “When was the last time you killed someone? A couple of days ago? Or hours?
• "Why did not you tell me?"
• "OK. I believe you".
• "OK. But not a bit more than necessary.”
• [Strength Challenge: KS – 7] “Push him away.”
• "I can't wait to finally see you in action."

The next morning, an additional scene will occur in which other companions learn about Astarion's vampire nature, and the man himself talks about the skills that he can use in battle. Here he also needs to be ed by demonstrating his trust.

Late Night Snack is the main scene that provides the biggest boost to Approval. In combination with other aspects that positively affect the relationship between the characters, it can lead to the vampire offering the protagonist a night together.

In order to watch the sex scene with Astarion, you need to structure the conversation as follows:

• “How did you notice this?”
• “Who talks about this out loud?”
• “Sounds good,” then use a sleeping bag.
• "Okay, but where do we go?"
• "Okay, meet you there".
• “I don’t belong to you yet” or “Kiss him silently.”
• “Playfully stick your neck out for him” will allow you to get additional “Approval” points.
• “What about hugs?”
• "You're good, but not that good."
• “First I want to ask you about your scars. Where did you get them from?
• [If you the Magic test] “Why did he write in Devilish?”

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If you concentrate on completing the main quest chain, tied to helping tieflings or goblins, and ignore completing additional missions, then the scene discussed above can occur already during a holiday organized by either tieflings or goblins (depending on whose side in the decision conflict accepted).

In addition, it is worth noting if you decide to stay at the locations first act main campaign, in order to complete additional missions and explore the surrounding area, during the next “Long Rest” Astarion can invite you to another date night.

Relationship with Astarion in Act II

After moving to second act Astarion will become interested scars on my back. Despite the fact that you will be able to see them for the first time during the first sex scene, you will be able to consider the essence of what was written only during a personal dialogue in the camp. In general, it does not matter what lines are chosen in the conversation, the main task is to help the vampire understand that Cazador left a strange “message” in the devilish language on the elf’s back.

After some time, Astarion will assume that only Raphael, a half-devil whom the squad had already met earlier, will be able to reveal the truth. The further goal is to see the man and find out if he is able to help. The meeting will take place on the approach to the location "Song of the Night".

In a separate guide, how to get to the “Challenge Shar” and complete all the tests of the Night Singer.

Rafail is ready to help, but only after completing an additional assignment, within the framework of which it is necessary free him from the influence of the contract, it is highly recommended to fulfill the of the deal with Raphael.

After the murder of Orton, Astarion, with a close connection with the protagonist, will begin to look at the main character differently, namely, he will see in him and .

Thus, subsequently, each of the considered details can lead to the first declaration of love. Replicas that are recommended to choose:

• “About your boundless love for me?”
• "Me too. More than anything else".
• “I treasure you. Endlessly".
• "Hug him."

A scene similar in sensuality, but different in lines, can occur after a meeting with drow Arai, who wanted Astarion to drink her blood. If you neglect the wishes of the stranger and allow your companion to decide the outcome of a kind of “deal” personally, then the elf will refuse, and at the same time, he will warm to the main character, who did not give orders. Subsequently, this will lead to a deeper dialogue, revealing the vampire companion as one who wishes to “free himself” and, after taking revenge on Cazador, begin a new life filled with positive emotions, certain feats and reflection regarding the “wrong” past. For this it is also important to select the appropriate replicas:

• "I don't want you to do anything you don't want to do."
• “So why did you have to sleep with me? Did you think you’d get something for this?”
• "You are very dear to me".
• "Hug him."

Relationship with Astarion in the third act

One of the main romantic scenes with Astarion within third act can turn around when meeting with dryad Zetkhino at the circus. As soon as a woman asks about the protagonist’s love, it is necessary to build a dialogue as follows:

1. “Yes, I have love - and by the way, we are quite close.”
2. “Astarion, how are you?” - it’s important to have 100 gold coinsto verification.

Thus, a kind of “test” will begin for the depth of the feelings experienced. Astarion and the main character will be opposite each other, the distance between them will be personified by a “log” - the connecting part between the two banks. In order to get closer to the satellite, you need to give the correct answers to the following questions:

Question	Correct answer
When is Astarion happiest?	When his hands are up to his elbows in blood
Tell me what does he desire most?	To sweep
What does Astarion fear most?	Break a nail

The answers are tailored so that Astarion I was pleased with what I heard. To the second and third questions you can also say: "Freedom" и “To feel like someone’s slave forever”. This way, the subsequent conversation between the characters will be more sincere, but the companion will remain dissatisfied. It is important to note that the vampire elf is the only hero who does not approve of answers that reveal his hidden desires related to freedom.

Next, you need to move again on the tasks of the “Blonde Elf” mission, which allows Astarion to get closer to the implementation of his plan. Main goals:

1. Meet monster hunter Ulma. It is important to help the organization rather than oppose it.
2. Talk to the vampire spawn in Freigo's bunkhouse. Thus, it will become known about Zarr’s immediate plans (at this stage, the squad may also be attacked by a group of vampires who will try to kidnap a companion for Cazadora).

The last task is Find Cazador's Palace in Baldur's Gate: during its implementation, the protagonist will need to confront the high vampire and protect his dear companion from the rite of Unholy Ascension. As soon as Zarr falls, Astarion will go to the sarcophagus, inside which his owner will try to restore the expended strength. As a result, there will be a choice between completing the ritual, which will allow the elf to ascend, and the full liberation of the companion from the past, revenge and crazy plans to conquer the whole world.

If you complete the ritual

In order to perform the ritual of the Unholy Ascension and give Astarion the opportunity become a supreme vampire, you must select the following lines during the dialogue:

• "OK. What exactly do you need?
• "Enter Astarion's mind so he can continue the ritual."
• "Allow the ritual to continue."

In the end, Kasador will die, like the elf’s brothers in the form of the abominations created by Zarr. Astarion, in turn, will become the greatest vampire, before whose power every rebellious will bow. He will also be able to make the protagonist his spawn, offering some of the power. To do this, during a personal dialogue, you should choose only one phrase: “I want to be a vampire. How are you".

Thus, the main character will receive immortality: Astarion will turn him into a “dark companion, right hand and precious offspring”, which will be somewhat different from other vampire creatures due to the feelings that arose between the characters as a result of long t wanderings.

If you stop the ritual

If you continue to move towards the complete liberation of Astarion from the past, he can be dissuaded from carrying out the ritual and “dirty” power. To do this, it is important to structure the dialogue as follows:

• "If I help you complete the ritual, all these prisoners will die."
• [Insight Challenge: QS - 20]: “Look into the eyes of your lover. Try to understand what motivates him."
• [Persuasion Challenge: CS – 15]: “I know: you think that in this way you will gain freedom. But that's not true. You will be trapped by your own power, like Cazador before you.”

As a result, Astarion will kill his master and free himself from his two-century oppression. The elf's brothers will also receive long-awaited freedom and a “correct” future, devoid of orders, pain and suffering. This will complete the mission “Blonde Elf”; later, at the time of the “Long Rest”, it will become available additional romantic scene, as a result of which the romance between Astarion and the protagonist will have the opportunity to generate new, stronger feelings.

What happens if you change Astarion

Initially, the only emotion that Astarion experiences towards the protagonist is desire: be it the desire to get rid of a larva stuck in the head, or to satisfy any personal needs. However, subsequently, as the novel develops, as well as the age of the main story campaign, the companion’s feelings towards the main character will change. Trying to get close to another character will result in a dialogue, which will result in the elf offering start more conscious relationships, where everyone belongs to each other and no one else.

In this way, the romance will be “fixed” and, subsequently, other unique scenes will open up where the vampire will reveal himself as a sensitive character who dreams of learning to “love.” Including, in the future there will be a moment with a confession of feelings, which was discussed in the points above.

Astarion and the Dark Seduction

Astarion is one of the few characters who can be sympathetic when the protagonist's obsession is revealed. Dark Seduction, however, for this, it is necessary to increase the level of “Approval”. Otherwise, the elf may not accept the sinister essence of the main character and refuse to further build a romantic relationship.

Subsequently, if you managed to start an affair with Astarion, being possessed by the Dark Seduction, in one of the “Long Nights” the protagonist will be faced with a choice - kill or save the life of a loved one, with the last of his strength resisting the “prophecy” of Gnus. To do this, after talking with the butler, you must select the following answer options:

• “Reach to shake his shoulder and wake him up.”
• [Wisdom Challenge: CS – 14] “Resist temptation, wake it up.”
• "You are in danger and we don't have much time."
• “I will kill the one person I care about most in this world: you. If you don't bother me."
• [Wisdom Challenge: CS – 18] “Try to be yourself and show that you understand everything.”
• [Wisdom Challenge: CS – 18] “Try to express gratitude.”
• "To tell the truth: you are desperately resisting the urges of the Dark Seduction."
• “In your eyes, I am better than I am. But I will try not to disappoint you."

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